What I hope families will understand is that what children try to come to terms with what is normal? I know we like to talk about we are all the same and skin color doesn't matter. Maybe not but because we have different cultural experiences and everyday realities we have different words to express or explain that. Sometimes the same words are used to mean something different. Interpretation and norming is pretty interesting. It's what me and my brother call "do you see what I hear." This is meant to be fun so hope you see the humor.
- Why don't you wash your hair everyday, won't it get oily? Hope so, beats being dry.
- You don't have a perm, your hair is not even curly. I know that's why I got a perm.
- Did you get your hair styled? No. I just got it done. DONE equals wash and set even if it was blow dried.
- Does your mom every let you wear free hair? I don't know what that is but sometimes I wear it down.
- Why are you wearing hose aren't your legs already dark? Huh!?! Hose or stockings have more to do with the occasion and attire. I never had or would have associated them with giving my legs a tan color. That explains why I see girls wearing hose with shorts or their cheerleading outfit.
- If you put on heels it will lift your butt. From where and for what?
- My daughter has the greatest little body, she has not butt at all. Eeeks -- death sentence for a black girl. Black girls without behinds were said to have a disease called, "noassatall". Celebrate the power of the booty!
- Does this outfit make my butt look big? Isn't that the point? I will say though that what we usually refer to as butt is the curvature and not the width of hips.
- Just wear nude hose. Mmmm, nude doesn't come in my nude color.
- If you're going to wear white pants make sure to white undies. Uh-Uh doesn't work that way -- must wear black.
- Hey that guy just said you have big legs -- how rude. It was actually a compliment.
- Can black people get tan? I would imagine unless you think we/they are as black as they can get already.
- Do you have dry skin. No -- I'm just ashy.
- You can never be too rich or too thin. My mother always said even dogs want meat on their bones.
- What are you going to have for Thanksgiving? Standard menu sweet potato pie (not pumpkin), greens/green beans not casserole, dressing not stuffing, that canned cranberry sauce.
- We're having macaroni and cheese for dinner. Isn't that a side dish where is the meat?
- The proper way to prepare meat is with a little red in center -- you don't want to over cook it. My mother always said we don't put food on the table that can still run away -- cook it or you will get "the worms."
- How come all the black kids sit together in the cafeteria? Because all the white kids are sitting together in all the other seats.