Monday, January 28, 2008

Officially Waiting for a Referral

It's time to wait...and wait...and wait...
When I began the process I was told that the wait for a referral would be between 0-6 months. For my own sanity I focus on the far end of that range. It's hard to believe that I am almost at the two month mark already.

I think I will be able to deal with the wait pretty well for the first 4-5 months. I have a lot of things to do and I know that the time will go by quickly. Without the referral, I don't know the gender of the children or their exact ages. I am open to either gender so I may be referred two boys, two girls, or a set. I am requesting children that are older than two and younger than six and may receive a referral for anything in between. There is a difference in preparing for twin two year olds and making plans for one 3 and one 6 year old. You know what I mean.

With that in mind there are so many things that I am finding it difficult to resist:
  • Buying bedroom furniture and choosing colors.
  • Walking into children's stores and toy departments.
  • Buying cute outfits at JC Penny's (because I walked into the children's department) that were all on sale for $2-5 dollars. I had to call my friend for an intervention.
  • Getting a fixed picture in my head of who they may be. I want to be able to love and embrace them as they are rather than have them live up to some crazy expectation.
  • Calling them by names that may not fit them (currently they are the Kende Poohs).
  • Purchasing toys, BOOKS, and games of any kind.
  • Looking at too many pictures from other families, wishing that I had pictures of my own.
  • Blogging and commenting on the adoption forums!


Lori said...

Congratulations! Yippee!

graceling said...

Yahoo!!!! Waiting for a referral! Congrats!

Katy said...

I hear you on the compulsive blogging. For the first few months of our official wait, I wrote on my blog and read other blogs like it was my job. I still DEVOUR other blogs (like yours) and the # of times that I check my favorites each day is directly related to my mental stablility and how I'm coping with the wait. Lately, my obsession has been RAGING. I hope that your referral comes quickly.

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Pilar said...

My name is Pilar, I’m spanish living in Madrid (Spain). We have parallel adoption process. My offer is in Ethiopia since November 2007, and like you, I’m requesting two boys or two girls o a set of age between 2-6.
I will follow your blog and congratulations for it

VALARIE - Single, Ethiopian-bound, mother-to-be of two bright-eyed Ethio children. said...

Hi Pilar. You'll have to let me know when you get your referral. Thanks for the comment.

Original Court Date: April 18, 2009
Final Court Date: May 18, 2009
[607 total days & 165 days w/IAN]